DEAR ABBY: My daughter “Kate” is 22 and only recently graduated from faculty. She has been relationship her boyfriend for 5 years. I really like this younger man like he was my very own.
The issue is, I simply discovered Kate has been seeing somebody on the facet. He’s her boss, and he’s 54 years outdated! I’m sworn to secrecy as a result of her older sister informed me about this. To say the least, I’m disgusted, however I can’t say something as a result of it will destroy the belief between the 2 sisters. Any recommendation? — DISGUSTED MOM IN THE EAST
DEAR MOM: Sure. My recommendation is to step again and let the scenario evolve. The reality will ultimately come out. Both the boss’s spouse will discover out and Kate should discover one other job, or her boyfriend will catch on and finish their relationship so he can discover a lady who’s able to being trustworthy. Typically individuals should be taught these life classes the laborious method, and Kate is not any exception.
DEAR ABBY: Our grownup grandson is planning a guys journey with three of his buddies. We all know solely considered one of them properly. They’ll be visiting us at our lake residence and doing all of the lake actions. My husband will drive the boat as none of them has any expertise.
I need to inform them I’ll flip the kitchen over to them and ask them to carry their very own groceries and drinks. My husband thinks I ought to present the groceries and meals, and have them carry their very own drinks and assist with cleansing up. This has precipitated a number of arguments between us. How ought to we resolve this concern? — FRUSTRATED GRANDMA
DEAR GRANDMA: Right here’s how: Inform your husband you don’t plan on shouldering the complete accountability of feeding 5 grownup males throughout their keep. Supply to cook dinner a “welcome dinner” for them, but when he feels they want extra hospitality, HE ought to put together the remaining.
DEAR ABBY: I frequent a small native restaurant. The proprietor can also be the server. I consider her husband (or son) is the chef. We’re on pleasant phrases, and I typically get a “free” dessert. When the invoice arrives, I’m requested on the receipt for a tip, which I’ve been leaving. However, recently, I really feel I’m paying further for my meal or paying for that “free” dessert — after which some. I imply, who am I tipping? It’s not just like the server is a employed worker. I must know, should I go away a tip? What’s correct in terms of tipping the proprietor who can also be the server? — CONFOUNDED IN FLORIDA
DEAR CONFOUNDED: You state that it is a “small” native restaurant. Eating places function on a slender margin. If the welcome is heat and also you benefit from the meals and ambiance, you shouldn’t quibble about rewarding the proprietor(s) with a tip. I don’t suppose the message could be on the invoice if a tip was not anticipated. The quantity is as much as you.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
