Two hostages launched by Hamas had been reunited Wednesday in a Jerusalem cemetery for a remaining goodbye.
Surrounded by tons of of mourners, Matan Angrest, who had returned to Israel simply two days earlier, stood earlier than the freshly dug grave cradling his 22-year-old commander, Capt. Daniel Peretz, and paid his respects.
He prayed for extra to make it house, together with Sgt. Itay Chen — one other member of their unit whose physique remains to be held in Gaza.
“It’s the least I can do for Daniel and the workforce that fought with me,” stated Angrest, 22, his voice sturdy regardless of his pallor and evident weak spot. “I’m positive that they’re nonetheless guarding me from heaven.”
Angrest, Peretz and Chen had been serving on a tank crew once they had been taken throughout the Hamas-led assault on Oct. 7, 2023; terrorists killed 1,200 folks in Israel and took 251 captives that day.
“I want he may come again. I’m able to go to Gaza to convey him again,” Angrest stated of Chen.
Below the phrases of the ceasefire, Hamas is meant to return all 28 of the deceased hostages’ our bodies held in Gaza, however solely 10 our bodies had been launched as of early Thursday.
One was decided to not be a hostage.
That left some households within the devastating limbo they’ve endured for greater than two years, unable to provide their family members the right burial that in Judaism is an important covenant with God, the deceased and the survivors.
“That is our obligation to God, we take the physique and return it to the land,” stated Rabbi Benny Lau, a pal of the Peretz household. “The soul belongs to God and returns to God, however the physique is our accountability.”
The religious significance of burial and mourning
The three largest monotheistic religions — Christianity, Islam and Judaism — educate that an individual’s soul continues to exist after being separated from the physique by dying. However in Judaism and Islam, there are additionally particular teachings that the physique must be left as intact as doable and buried as rapidly as doable, with ritual cleaning and prayers.
“The thought of respecting the lifeless is intrinsic to the Jewish life cycle,” defined Sharon Laufer, who has volunteered as a part of Jewish burial societies, for many years, and is a reserve soldier in a particular unit that identifies and prepares our bodies of fallen troopers for burial.
“Till the physique is put within the floor, the soul will not be full, and that’s why it’s so vital to us.”
In regular circumstances, meaning funerals are held inside a day. Within the case of the Jewish hostages, it interprets into the continuing wrestle — involving authorities negotiators and household prayers — to convey everybody’s stays again.
“We can’t shut that chapter of those two years with out returning all of them,” Lau stated.
Many households rejoiced with the remainder of the nation within the return of the residing hostages on Monday, however felt betrayed by those that stated the disaster was over and that the ever present yellow ribbons and hostage posters might be taken down.
Itay Chen was 19 when he was kidnapped on Oct. 7 whereas doing necessary army service. Chen was on obligation as a result of he had switched weekends with one other soldier so he may attend his brother’s bar mitzvah.
Greater than two years later, his physique stays lacking.
“It’s a weird feeling the place you begin the day anticipating to get the worst telephone name that you’ll in your lifetime, after which really feel disenchanted when you don’t get that telephone name,” stated his father, Ruby Chen.
Alongside dozens of individuals, Shlomit Grouda stood on bridge in Tel Aviv to look at a convoy drive to the cemetery for the funeral of Man Illouz, who was kidnapped from a music pageant and was additionally buried on Wednesday.
“I fought for them to return house, and as I used to be glad for those who got here again alive, it’s now time to bow our head for individuals who didn’t,” she stated.
A grave with solely a helmet and a household’s agonizing wait continues
Ela Haimi watched her husband, Tal Haimi, 41, depart the saferoom the place they had been sheltering with their three youngsters to go defend their kibbutz as Hamas-led terrorists stormed it on Oct. 7.
Later that day got here the decision that his telephone was pinging in Khan Younis, Gaza. She took it as excellent news — he had been taken however was nonetheless near house, she defined to the youngsters, displaying them a map.
Two months later, the Israeli army instructed her they believed he had been killed within the assault and his physique taken to Gaza.
After two consecutive nights when Tal wasn’t included among the many returned our bodies this week, Haimi stated it not issues to her how lengthy it takes — so long as he will be buried at his kibbutz finally.
“I feel he deserves this honor. He went out first, he went figuring out I used to be alone with the youngsters amongst terrorists, to guard us. And he did,” Haimi stated from her house in Nir Yitzhak. She’s returned there solely this summer season with the youngsters — together with one born seven months after his father was killed.
She did maintain a funeral and went by the prescribed seven-day shiva mourning interval in 2023. However the short-term grave solely holds Tal’s helmet.
“The youngsters know he left, they usually don’t know the place he’s,” she added.
After burial, the mourning — and therapeutic — can start
Rabbis and psychological well being specialists say it’s arduous for households to seek out closure till they will bury their family members.
“We have to give them the time and the likelihood to maneuver from the horrible uncertainty to studying to reside with the truth that the individual is not there,” stated Rabbi Mijael Even David. His synagogue in Be’er Sheva has celebrated funerals for victims of the assault in close by kibbutzim in addition to for troopers killed within the conflict.
Judaism prescribes a number of intervals of mourning after the burial, from the seven-day shiva the place members of the family are anticipated to remain house and chorus from all common routines to the one-month anniversary and past.
These rituals convey religious advantages each to the lifeless and the residing kinfolk — and psychological ones, too.
Solely when all of the hostages are again can their households and the entire nation start to heal from noticed signs of “traumatic grief,” stated Dr. Einat Yehene, a rehabilitation psychologist with the Hostages Households Discussion board.
In her eulogy at Peretz’s funeral, his sister Adina Peretz stated that standing by his grave carried extra ache than she thought doable. However there was additionally some peace in being nearer to her brother than she had been for 2 years.
“You’ll be able to lastly relaxation within the Holy Land,” she stated.
Closing the three-hour service the place audio system ranged from Peretz’s grandmother to Israel’s president, Shelley Peretz stated the truth that her son had lastly crossed again into Israel — on the Jewish vacation of Simchat Torah, the identical as on the day he was taken — made all of the distinction.
“We have now you house now the place you belong,” she stated earlier than a gun salute echoed within the late evening.
