DEAR ABBY: I simply concluded a five-day go to internet hosting some younger family members. Each are adults of their early 30s. They’ve full-time jobs and make first rate cash, though they spend it as quick as they get it. My concern is their pot smoking.
Leisure marijuana is authorized right here in addition to the place they stay. Throughout their go to, they smoked joints earlier than breakfast, mid-morning, after lunch, earlier than dinner, after dinner and earlier than mattress. I might estimate they smoked 5 to seven joints a day apiece. They repeatedly commented that what they purchased right here was a lot stronger than what they may get at dwelling. I prompt possibly they need to, subsequently, smoke a bit much less, however I bought a “we’re on trip” response.
They interspersed the smoking with high-caffeine power drinks. Each exhibited quite a lot of nervousness and paranoia. A number of occasions, they drove their rented automobile after smoking, they usually would have gotten a DUI had they’d been stopped for any motive.
I stated nothing about their pot consumption in the course of the go to, however then I assumed that if they’d seen me with a contemporary glass of wine in my hand at breakfast, adopted by 5 – 6 extra over the course of the day, they’d have been involved about my habits. Am I loopy to be involved about theirs?
I don’t know if that is how they spend their common days off from work, or if this was a trip binge. Ought to I preserve my mouth shut and simply let it go, or ought to I attempt to focus on it with them now that their go to is concluded? — OBSERVER IN OREGON
DEAR OBSERVER: How these absolutely employed family members spend their cash shouldn’t be a topic you must elevate. Nevertheless, you do have the correct to inform them you had been involved about not solely the quantity of pot they had been smoking throughout their go to, but additionally the truth that they had been driving beneath the affect. Marijuana could also be authorized, however that doesn’t make it advisable to make use of in each scenario. Being stoned slows down response time and places them and different drivers in danger.
DEAR ABBY: My fiancé and I’ve been residing together with his mother and father for the previous two years. We’re prepared to maneuver, however it seems like his mother and father need us to stay with them perpetually. I’m prepared to only depart, however I don’t need to trigger drama. His father calls me impolite names and fights with my fiancé. I don’t need my daughter residing this fashion anymore. Ought to I simply stroll out, or ought to I clarify to them first what our plans are after which depart? — HAD ENOUGH IN THE SOUTH
DEAR HAD ENOUGH: I think there may be no less than one chapter and verse lacking out of your letter. Relatively than depart in a huff or sneak away with no clarification, you and your fiancé ought to thank his mother and father for permitting you to stay with them for the final two years, inform them you have got discovered a spot of your personal now and depart as pleasantly as doable.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
